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ANOTHER CORSET OUTFIT AND HOW I’M RE-INVENTING MY BLOG

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It’s no secret to my blog readers that I love the corset trend. I mean how can I not?

I’ve styled it on the blog before in this post Here. And you can trust that I will be styling it again pretty soon. Why do I love the corset trend? Simple. It’s the one way I can wear something resembling an underwear out without actually wearing an underwear out. Plus it’s so sexy.

Anyway, I finally put my blog together. Did some random shit, got myself a blog planner, de-cluttered the blog. I also did some maintenance, some testing, and got a new expensive premium theme (I hope y’all like it o) PS: Check out the desktop version. Now I’m ready to roll (Lord, please help me be consistent)  I have always taken my blogging seriously. I love blogging, the amount of growth and understanding blogging has brought to me is almost overwhelming.

A few weeks ago, I began to feel a little bit lost, underwhelmed even. Blogging became work, I was lost, focusing too hard on SEO ratings. Trying hard to make sure I had a post to put out every week so I don’t lose following. Editing my posts so darn much that by the time I’m done, it almost did not sound like me anymore. I constantly had to google post ideas because I felt the ones I had were not good enough, engaging enough, educative enough. Someone said to me, “all bloggers are the same, doing the same shit in different words” and in a bid to not seem the same, I unfortunately lost sight of my goal, putting out content to please people, instead of putting out content I genuinely wanted to put out.

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I felt my life take on an unfortunate robotic quality. Trying so hard to please everyone, I needed brands to love me, wanted my fellow bloggers to adore me, my readers to believe me. Staying up counting blog stats and comments. Refreshing my DM’s and mailbox to see yet another message from a reader telling me how amazing I am. And in all of this, I forgot why I started blogging in the first place.

To have a voice, to share my thoughts, to share my experience, to document growth and lifestyle, to talk about things that matter to me, to just be a writer without a care in the world. There were so many posts on my draft that I refused to hit publish on because I feared how I would be perceived, maybe ”people won’t like it”  maybe it won’t fit in with my “nichemaybe ”brands won’t like it” so many maybe until I could not hear my own voice anymore.


Oh well, not anymore. If this break has taught me anything, it’s that this is my blog. Not a brand’s blog, not my reader’s blog, not the public blog. But my blog. No one gets to tell me how it should or should not be. I’m going to post stuffs I want to post, and I’m just going to be myself and love whatever outcome it brings.
Yes, I’m done ranting, who loves this simple ultra feminine look am sporting here, I got a lot of compliments on this day and a lot of toasters too (lol) + I may have even gotten a new job and partnership opportunity o, all cause looking cute is good business. I’ll let y’all know how it turns out.

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HAVE YOU EVER FELT YOU HAVE LOST YOUR WAY DUE TO EXCESSIVE SCRUTINY? HOW DID YOU DEAL WITH PEOPLE’S OPINION?

27 Comments

  • Reply Stylebeatbyzobam October 23, 2017 at 11:34 pm

    To be very honest with you, you hit the nail at the head. Too much pressure to meet up with some unnecessary stuffs sometimes masks our creative minds. Am glad you snapped out of it.
    Keep doing you. I still love you anyways
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  • Reply Amaka October 21, 2017 at 4:15 pm

    I liked this post and how you came clean to us! It gets like that sometimes. I’m hoping not to ever reach such a point, but if I do, I want to be able to rise above it and return my focus to where it should be. Glad to have you back! I hope this is a fresh start and you can continue to churn out awesome content! We’re rooting for you!

  • Reply Bee October 21, 2017 at 6:22 am

    Go Salmah !!! Glad you’re back and you feel much better. We need to do these things for us and no one else.

  • Reply Debs October 20, 2017 at 10:51 pm

    Babygirl is back!!! How excited I am💃🏻💃🏻 and yes it is your blog, please blog on darling…

    And the outlook, details please 😁🙏🏼

  • Reply Leslie October 20, 2017 at 8:12 pm

    I absolutely loveeee your top by the way, pls where can I get something similar.
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  • Reply Leslie October 20, 2017 at 8:10 pm

    I totally understand how you felt because I’ve felt this way for the longest time, at a point I lost all motivation and purpose to actually write something because I’d want it to sound acceptable enough, it wasn’t me anymore. But I realised the real reason I started blogging in the first place and had to take myself back to that point and honestly being myself truly has never felt better.
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  • Reply Wendy October 20, 2017 at 1:31 pm

    I’ve been going through this for a while now but I refuse to let rhe other aspect of blogging overwhelm me, I’ll keep doing it cause I love to do it. Thanks Salmah!

    • Reply Salmah October 20, 2017 at 4:02 pm

      Thank you Wendy! And yes, we can’t always let people have their way with us every time.. if we did, we’ll get lost in the crowd and forget who we are.

  • Reply leemlar October 20, 2017 at 1:23 pm

    Love the new look of the blog. SOMETHING LIGHT! Simple and clean. Welcome back Boo boo.

    • Reply Salmah October 20, 2017 at 4:02 pm

      Thanks baby girl

  • Reply Uche October 20, 2017 at 11:16 am

    That outfit is way too hot and sexy… You should consider wearing more pink outfits. Xoxo

  • Reply Seky October 20, 2017 at 10:55 am

    Welcome back Salmah! And Pink looks so good on you.

    • Reply Salmah October 20, 2017 at 4:02 pm

      Thank you so much seky.

  • Reply Cynthia Ezinne October 20, 2017 at 10:48 am

    I must say, that this is just what I needed to read right now and I made sure I read every single word. It is our blog, so we’ll post whatever we want, however we want it because it just must serve It’s original purpose.
    And the theme is really great 💪😘
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    • Reply Salmah October 20, 2017 at 4:03 pm

      😂 thanks a lot Cynthia.. Biko it’s our blog together!!

  • Reply Opeyemi October 20, 2017 at 10:13 am

    Love the outfit! And yeah I couple of weeks back I was getting into that head space where I was thinking too much about the blog, and my stats went even encouraging, thank you for the encouragement 💜

  • Reply Kezia Macbruce October 20, 2017 at 10:06 am

    I like i like i like Salmah.You look beautiful in this colour.

    Welcome back!!!

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    • Reply Salmah October 20, 2017 at 4:05 pm

      Thank you so much! Kezia

  • Reply Kezia Macbruce October 20, 2017 at 10:05 am

    I like i like i like Salmah.You look beautiful in this colour.
    Welcome back

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  • Reply HELLO, I AM GIFT COLLINS October 20, 2017 at 10:03 am

    Welcome back Salmah… I am going through that phase… Trying to get it right, please people and all….. I have equally forgotten why I started blogging…. I honestly need to find myself again

    Pink never looked better!
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    • Reply Salmah October 20, 2017 at 4:06 pm

      Truth!! You definitely need to find yourself and believe in the outcome.. don’t let people dictate how you do what you love! Thanks girl.

  • Reply Vincent Desmond October 20, 2017 at 8:49 am

    yesss baby girl!!!! I’m glad your back and I’m even more glad you are not going to let anyone get in your way!!

    • Reply Salmah October 20, 2017 at 4:06 pm

      Thank you Vincent. Cnt wait for the times ahead!

  • Reply Maimuna October 20, 2017 at 8:27 am

    Sorry, typo. Am so glad you are back salmah. And you look stunning, can’t wait to see what you have instore for us.

    • Reply Salmah October 20, 2017 at 8:46 am

      Can’t wait too! Thanks dear

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